Our church service has a lovely tradition that I've adopted in our own home: blessing the children. In church, the kids spend time in the main sanctuary with their parents for music and praise. Then, the children stand to be blessed by their parents, the pastor and the congregation before they are excused to their Sunday school classes.
What does it mean to bless someone? Merriam-Webster defines it this way: to consecrate, to make holy, to ask divine care or protection for, to speak well of, to approve, to confer happiness or prosperity upon. How natural and how loving it is for a parent to bless their child and appeal to their own heavenly Father for blessing upon the child's life as well. This is a little different from praying for the child, though it is a prayer. It is said aloud specifically for the child to hear and be blessed by hearing it.
I have started doing this at home, with Buttercup at bedtime and with Sunshine at naptime. Not only is it a good thing to pray for the children, but it has helped me see through the occasional chaos and frustration that are inevitable with small children. It helps me clear my own mind, seeing these little ones as precious gifts from the Lord. It brings peace to the child. It brings peace to me. Even after a scream-fest. Really.
This is how I do it. I lay my hand on the child's head or face and bless them aloud. Sometimes the blessing will be from the bible, such as the priestly blessing from Numbers 6:24-26
The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace
I usually just say a simple blessing from my own heart that a small child will understand, something like, "I thank the Lord our Father for you. You are precious to Him and precious to me. He watches over you day and night and loves you. I am thankful to God that I am your mommy. May you trust in the Lord Jesus always, and grow to know and love him more each day."
The words change but the sentiment is the same each time. The blessing lets the children know "I am thankful for you", "you are a gift", "you are loved", "may God bless you always", and "may you grow in the grace and knowledge of Christ". After I say the blessing I kiss my child on the face and on the top of the head.
Every time I bless my four year old, she smiles a big broad smile, sighs a contented sigh, and settles into her pillow to go to sleep. It's as if she is bathing in the warm blessing. It feels good for her to receive the blessing and for me to give it. It lets her know that no matter what craziness went on that day, she is valued and loved, and she should continue to trust God, who is watching over her. I'm going to continue this new tradition as the kids grow. The words might change as they mature, but the intent will remain the same.
Blessings bring peace to the blessed and the peace to the one bestowing the blessing. We could all use a little more peace in our homes and in our lives.